Elevate by Robert Glazer

Author:Robert Glazer
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Published: 2019-07-17T16:47:43+00:00

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Build Your Emotional Capacity

“No one succeeds alone, gains freedom alone, or finds joy alone.”

—Adam Grant

Your level of emotional capacity is deeply connected with how you manage the little voice in your head, interact with others, and the quality of your relationships.

When you see two people of seemingly equal intellectual and physical capacity achieving very different outcomes, it is quite likely due to an imbalance in emotional capacity.

None of us exist in a vacuum. We live in a world in which our actions, interactions, and experiences are interwoven into the lives and actions of others. The quality of our relationships and the energy gained or consumed by these relationships is extremely powerful.

Think about a race car. If your spiritual, physical, and intellectual capacities are the tools to design, build, and improve the car, your emotional capacity is your ability to actually drive it in the presence of other drivers and unintended obstacles.

How you react and relate to the other cars will ultimately determine if your car performs above or below its factory specifications.

For most of us, it is the missing piece in our quest to build capacity and is often the most difficult, because it extends beyond the control of our own four walls.

Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

—Marianne Williamson

The first step in building your emotional capacity begins when you learn to stop doubting yourself and you realize that many of your limits are self-imposed. If you are clear about your purpose and values, you would think it would be easy to live by them. But it’s not, is it?

Too often, we are held back by our own self-limiting beliefs, as well as the expectations created for us by others. This cycle goes on within us each day, often without us even realizing it.

Instead of acknowledging and pursuing our true potential, it’s far more convenient (and less frightening) to manufacture reasons we can’t do something. What we really fear is doing the work that is necessary. For years, I knew I wanted to write a book. In 2016, I was sitting in class as part of a three-year entrepreneurial leadership program and had finally made the decision that I was going to write a book before we met the next year. That small change in my language and thinking from “I want to write a book” to “I am going to write a book” changed everything. From that point on, my energy went into the how. Twelve months later, I published my first book, Performance Partnerships.

I now take the same approach with each of my kids, explaining that they can achieve anything they desire (spiritual capacity) if they are willing to do what’s required (intellectual, physical, and emotional capacity) and make the decision to commit.

Your limiting beliefs can come from within, but often they originate from a variety of institutions and people around you—even those closest to you.

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